I woke up just the other morning still exhausted from the night before (working on The Shelby Hill Show) and the first thing I hear is my wife 
beside the bed wrestling on a pair of jeans. I look at her with a groggy face (is that possible…a groggy face?) and with a raspy voice I ask “babe, where are you going?” She says with haste “I’ve got to go to JTV for my show plan and then I have to go the bank and then…” Blah blah blah…is pretty much what I heard after a few seconds. So I asked “are you going to be back in time to come to the radio station with me to record the introduction to my podcast?” She responded, “Yes, of course”.
I roll over and grab my Crackberry from the nightstand to check for missed calls, texts and voice mails and then reach a little further for my laptop, logged in and began to start my day. A couple of hours later she returned home. I was still in bed, with my laptop, sports center on the T.V and on a call about appearing on a radio show (Success Power Talks) the following day. I can tell she wants to ‘chit-chat’ but, I sign to her “not now”. She proceeds to get comfy and hops in bed with her laptop too. She loves when we can just hang out in bed and still get work done.
Once my radio call ended, very shortly afterwards I received another call. This call was from a friend on the west coast. She called to congratulate me on The Shelby Hill Show. The energy was fun, exciting and I’m laughing and talking loud so I excuse myself and go upstairs to my office for the duration of the call. About 45 minutes later, after a couple of referrals for guests, some social media strategies, I’m sprinting downstairs to get ready to go the radio station, WYLV 89.1FM . I’m asking British “are you ready?”, and she’s says “Yes”. I gave her a little smack on the tush (a love tap) and I could tell she was a little agitated. I thought it was maybe because the love tap was too hard but, she said she was OK.
On our way to the station, her energy is totally different towards me. So I say “Okay, obviously there’s something wrong because your mood has done a complete 180″. I give her so many props because she admitted that her mood had taken a turn. She easily could have done what some women do and said there’s nothing wrong when there was and we would’ve wasted hours going back and forth because I know I’m not crazy and I know something is wrong but she’s going to make me guess. She didn’t do that. What she did do was say, “I’m not 100% sure but, I’m just in a funky mood. Give me a minute and let me think bout it”. Approximately three minutes later she asked me if I was ready to receive what she had to say. I said “Yeah…sure…let me have it.” She proceeds to say “I feel like I need more attention from you lately.”
Like most men who hear this we immediately want to scream because we’re thinking “WHAT?? MORE ATTENTION?? What more can I possibly do???
But, I didn’t respond this way. I did, however, scream this it inside in my head, deep deep under my breath and continued to listen. She proceeded to tell me why… “You’ve been immersed in your work, all of these calls, then the travel, etc., it just seems like you don’t have time for me lately.”
In here “sista-girl” demeanor, she goes on to say “while you’re out here making sure these women have their ‘Love60 minutes’, improving their relationships, and finding love, you need to not forget about taking care of home base. You need to make sure you drop some Love60 minutes over here…with your wife.”
Ummm…okay…
Here’s what I heard from all of this. From the moment we awoke that morning, we had not had any contact whatsoever. Not a hug, not a kiss, not a morning snuggle, not even a simple “good morning”. What my sweetheart really wanted was to feel the attention and love from her man. She didn’t need anything complex or fancy but, just something simple and sweet to remind her that I’m close by and still connected. Once I realized the underlying feeling for her mood change, I gave her a “real” kiss and we proceeded to enjoy our evening.
Love really doesn’t have to be difficult if you pay attention to each other and are coming from a place of love and nothing less.
Shelby 
your man. Yeah, I know…making a split decision to go out for dinner or have a “quick intimate moment” can seem daunting, especially when you have children, but I think spontaneity is good and worth it!
RESERVATIONS!
We didn’t plan to go to dinner tonight and we could have easily cooked at home….but instead, we were spontaneous. And you know what, it felt really good and tasted pretty good too!!
