Went to bed last night with heavy thoughts on my mind because I knew British and I weren’t in a “good” place. Woke up with a heavy heart and wanting for us both to be in a better place today. I could sense that she was hoping that I would initiate “the talk” and so I did…somewhat reluctantly. Women are so intuitive. Although I initiated our talk she could tell I wasn’t doing so half-heartedly. She gave me an out and said we didn’t have to discuss anything right now if I felt that later would be better -then perhaps we should wait til later. Well of course that made me feel guilty so I shifted my demeanor and my attitude and committed to giving her and US the attention we deserve to address and resolve the issue at hand.
The matter at hand wasn’t any different from what most marriages endure at times i.e., communication, trust, emotions, affection, vulnerability,interpretations, assumptions…etc. You get the picture. The thing is that each and every one of those categories of a marriage/relationship are essential and if not addressed openly in a “safe” environment can potentially ruin the union. Even more important than creating a “safe” environment for your partner is first making the commitment to yourself to say that you are going to talk about it…have a simple conversation. It’s the conversations that couples don’t have that create the gaping hole between two people. This is a practice that British and I embrace. Although it can be extremely difficult at times…we really do embrace it and because of this philosophy it keeps us close to one another and it dispels all assumptions and misconceptions we may have about an issue at hand.
A simple conversation…what a simple concept to integrate into your relationship.
Shelby
